The Ugly One: Body, Mind and Tons of Sarcasm

The Ugly One: Body, Mind and Tons of Sarcasm

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The Ugly One: Body, Mind and tons of sarcasm

Are we ugly? Here’s some real talk here ya’ll. Dealing with depression comes with some baggage. One of the main issues is our self-esteem. I’m not even going to sugarcoat this: we think we’re ugly. Like some creature that some scientist would find and proudly proclaim…

“and zis is vhat ve discovered in ze zwamp!”  (He has an accent).

I don’t even remember the first time I looked at myself and thought I wasn’t pretty. I have only brothers so I grew up wearing their hand me-downs and playing sports and was the epitome of the tomboy. With my nose stuck in a book and not a care of fashion or the crazy lion’s mane that was my hair. 

It most likely started with body image. I was at a sleepover and we were all trying on clothes. I couldn’t get my friends jeans on and the others laughed at me. In fifth grade, girls started making fun of me for my clothes and were more interested in boyfriends. HA! My only friends WERE boys and they had cooties. 

 

When did society start putting it into our head’s that we had to be a certain way? Here I was, a super pale skin, curly haired girl wearing glasses. There were so many days when I couldn’t even LOOK into the mirror. When did I become ugly?

Let me set this straight. There’s nothing wrong with bettering ourselves. Yes, beauty matters on the inside, but good hair doesn’t hurt. When we feel as if we look our best, then our mood improves. You could have freaking purple skin and still be a goddess. 

 

I read somewhere that yes, flowers are beautiful, but so are Christmas lights. We’re all beautiful in our OWN way. Which is probably the most cliched line in history. But it’s the truth. 

This is my no makeup look versus when I’m ready. Ya’ll have no idea how hard it was for me to post this. Then I started thinking, why not? It’s still me underneath this cake on my face. And if you don’t like me for my non-makeup face then there’s still a problem with society. We’re beautiful BOTH ways. This post is different than my usual ones. I don’t post pictures of myself and this one is filled with it. 

If I want to help others, then I’ll have to set myself out there first. Text Therapy helped me and now it can help you as well. 

I encourage all of ya’ll today to go without makeup for ONE day. And go out in public. Go to dinner. Do something. Embrace the light that is YOU. You’re no flowers, you’re the SUN. SO throw some glitter and SHINE.

 

 

As always, keep smiling lovelies. 

 

 

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36 Comments

  1. Self-worth and self-beauty are so important for all of us. I tried to bring up my own children in order to be proud of themselves and not be influenced by the unrealistic beauty standards that photoshop and extreme media perpetuates.

  2. I can relate to this post in numerous ways. I almost always do not go without makeup when I go anywhere. Even if I just through on a little eyeliner & mascara, but this weekend, I went to the grocery store with nothing on. Totally bare face. It’s kinda scary as you feel like people are looking at you, but I got over. I will be doing this more often.

  3. Wow, I love how real this post is! Awesome that you are bringing awareness to a topic that most people don’t share! 🙂 Great post!

  4. Thanks for sharing this. Struggling with depression and self worth can be a very difficult thing. It takes a huge toll on you for sure

  5. I think it is important to be self-obsessed…it gives you a unique sense of confidence. I agree with you 100%- If you don’t like me without makeup, then you are allowed to leave. Great post!

  6. We all feel/felt ugly at some point in life and I think that’s absolutely normal. Society can play a big part in how we view ourselves which sucks. However, at the end of the day, we just have to learn to love ourselves and be happy with who we are without having to change anything about ourselves to fit in. Nice post btw!

    xo Tina
    IG: @tinasweetheart
    http://www.tinasweetheart.com

  7. Love this topic! I think it is so important to stop listening to what others think and just grow and love yourself for everything that you are! Trust me we’ve all felt like we weren’t pretty enough or good enough because of the words and actions of other people. I think with age you start to learn what really matters in life and the people who you surround yourself with should be your support system not people who bring you down.

  8. I love how real you are! Yes, we ARE all beautiful in our own way. It’s just a matter of closing our ears and minds to the critics!

  9. Get rid of those ugly thoughts and you will realize that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Don’t let those thoughts or what others say or think consume you. I know it’s easier said than done but your self worth and inner beauty are the only things that matter.

  10. I’ve never followed the social norms. All of my life I was this really tall girl at my school and stuck out so I was just born not to fit.

  11. I had the ugly thoughts for a long time… but I had someone in my life causing them. It wasn’t until I was older, had my child and was in a healthy relationship that those thoughts disappeared

  12. First of all, you are beautiful on the outside, and I can tell by your writing that you are also beautiful on the inside! I also struggle with the makeup thing though. Actually I have been working really hard to have a makeup free summer. I have gone out in public more without makeup in the last couple of months than ever, and let me tell you..it was VERY uncomfortable at first. But now I am learning to love my natural self and when I do put makeup on it’s special, whether it is for a night out or I’m just feeling a little saucy =) Great post girl! Thanks for being so honest!!

  13. I can go days without having my make up on. But I guess that it has lesser to do with society than our own self to realize that it didn’t matter as long as we are okay with what look like. And to reach that level of understanding takes a lot of time. Of course, friends, boys and family don’t make it any easier either.

    Gayathri @ Musings Over Nothing

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      It’s the people closest to us that usually hurts our self-esteem the most. I’ve lost friends and guys before over this, but now I know the people I have in my life love me for who I am right now. Not just for the days, I have cake on my face.

  14. I think if you love yourself and have good in your heart, it shows on your face. And, when goodness shows on your face, you start looking beautiful 🙂

  15. “You could have freaking purple skin and still be a goddess. ” Is the best line I have ever read!

  16. Spot on. Growing up I was a twig but I had extremely low self esteem and super frizzy hair that looked more like broken wires, lol. Hand me downs was all I wore and if I refused to wear something, I’d get in a heap of trouble too. Because of my issues, I made it a point to do what I could for my girls, to help them through the rough years and now we all like to dress up to go out but also feel very comfortable in our skin in ponytails without makeup wearing jeans and a t-shirt, too.

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      I practically live in jeans and a t-shirt. We had hand me down’s as well. Since I was the only girl, I had to wear my brothers older clothes but I didn’t mine. They were always comfier anyway!

  17. I still consider myself a Tomboy to this day, lol. I don’t wear makeup, nor do I go to the hair salon, and I’m certainly not fashionable. I wear what’s comfortable. My husband could care less, lol. I didn’t have brothers, but I had older boy cousins. I had my My Little Ponies, Barbies, Cabbage Patch Kids, and Glamour Gals, and I also had Star Wars figures and the Millennium Falcon. I STILL wonder where my Star Wars figured went… I still have the Millennium Falcon! LOL

  18. I think it takes a lot to even write a post like this so good on you for that. I also totally agree….makeup etc might not be what it’s all about but I for one feel a lot more confident and much better in myself when I have makeup on and my hair is done nicely. Great post xx

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      Thank you! The world puts so much pressure on us anyway. “You wear too much makeup” or “Why don’t you wear makeup? It’s like you don’t care.” We might as well do what we want anyway.

  19. Beauty is cultural. In the 19th century your pale skin would have been a thing of envy. Leanr to be comfortable in your skin and the rest will follow.

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      Fake it until you make it! I’ve been learning to love my pale skin and have much more progress than ten years ago. I hope to help others going through the thing!

  20. I feel like when you get older the need to have a fully made up face goes away. I probably only wear make up twice a week and it has been great. Back in college I would lose sleep over getting up early to apply makeup. Huzzah!

  21. Very well said. Society and its pressure is enormous.

  22. As suggest today will go out with my wife without makeup and simple dress. No one to Impress I hope it will make our day.


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